1. To take care of myself. This is not an act of selfishness.
2. To seek help from others even though my loved ones may object.
3. To maintain facets of my life that do not include the person I care for.
4. To get angry, be depressed, and express other difficult feelings occasionally.
5. To reject any attempts by my loved ones to manipulate me through guilt or depression.
6. To receive consideration, affection, forgiveness, and acceptance for what I do.
7. To take pride in what I am accomplishing.
8. To protect my individuality and my right to make a life for myself that will sustain me in the time when my loved one no longer needs my full–time help.

By Jo Horne